CheyTai

We have three kids, and I absolutely adore them. They’re 7, 6, and almost 10 months old.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve wanted four kids. But after having two, everything felt overwhelming. My mental health took a hit, and I struggled to keep up with the endless chores that seemed to multiply overnight. On top of that, trying to keep up with my schoolwork was almost impossible and pushed my mental health even further to the brink.

Our third baby wasn’t entirely planned, but wow, was he ever what we needed. He brought a new kind of energy into our family, shifting our dynamic in ways I could’ve never predicted. It wasn’t instant, but as the chaos settled, everything started falling into place like a complicated yet beautiful puzzle.

When I was pregnant, I was terrified I wouldn’t be able to keep up—with parenting, school, or even my own well-being. But I decided to homeschool during that time, hoping it would bring some structure and control to our days. Looking back, I think it was the best choice I could’ve made. It allowed my older kids to bond with their sibling, and it gave us this unique chance to learn and grow together as a family. It also gave me space to breathe and find moments of calm I didn’t even know I needed.

My pregnancy with Nyx was rough—it pushed me to reevaluate what mattered most in my life. During those months, I started reading books again, finding comfort and escapism in stories. I also reevaluated how I used social media, realizing how overwhelming it could be. Learning to take breaks from it helped me feel more balanced and present.

Physically, I struggled. I could only walk for about 10 minutes before I’d start feeling faint. Those short walks became cherished moments, though. They helped me reconnect with the world in small but meaningful ways, giving me a sense of peace during such a hectic time.

I used to think having three kids would feel impossible, but it’s been exactly what I needed. Instead of leaving me drained, it gave me more energy. The chaos of their laughter, even the moments of playful bickering, has somehow become my motivation.

The mix of gratitude, support, and access to good mental healthcare has completely changed how I view myself and my abilities. This journey isn’t just about the challenges we’ve faced—it’s about the amazing bonds we’re building as a family.

Having kids isn’t for everyone, but I can’t help feeling like I might want another baby someday. ❤️

~ Chey ❤